I have been a Campus Life Director with Youth for Christ for almost seven years now. In addition to my local responsibilities, as of last year, I was selected to be on the regional Campus Life team for the southern states. Being asked to serve at the regional level was already an honor. Then last year, I joined the national Campus Life team. The new appointments have afforded me the opportunity to travel more frequently.
Recently, I was returning from a four day trip to Denver, Colorado with our national team. I had to fly from Denver to Houston. Then, we flew from Houston to Birmingham, Al. While in Houston, we were informed that our plane had a hydraulic leak and we needed to move from gate 43 to gate 22. As everyone prepared to go to the new gate, I saw a young mother who had her hands full. She was pushing her daughter in her stroller while simultaneously transporting the baby’s bag and a carry on suitcase. Since I only had a laptop backpack and my hands were free, I offered to help her. “Thanks, but no thanks!” she cautiously answered. I replied, “Ma’am, my hands are free. We are going to the same gate. It’s a ways away. Why would you not allow me to help you? I have three daughters of my own. I know the struggles of trying to multi-task with children. Can I please help you?” Hesitantly, she finally gave in. As we walked to our gate and talked, I found out that she attended Stillman College. That’s my alma mater. I also found out that I know her fiancé who is also the father of her baby girl. When we arrived to our gate, the young lady thanked me for the help and said “You’re super nice. You told me that you’ve been traveling a lot for work lately. Does your wife ever worry about you cheating?” I said, “I don’t know. We don’t really talk about it much.” Truthfully, even if she does, I know me. That’s not something she has to worry about.
This morning, my wife and I were talking about a fairly well-known African American pastor (who will remain nameless). This pastor is a well-groomed, well-dressed man and has been described by more women than just my wife as a “pretty man.” I mentioned that he’s on his second wife. My wife responded by saying, “I’m married to you so, I can understand why.” You know I had to ask for clarity. She said, “You’re gone a lot. This pastor is more itinerate than you are. There’s a lot that can happen on both ends when there’s frequent, extended time apart.” She even alluded to the idea that having our children has helped her to deal with the times that I’m gone. I told her that I was unsure of what she meant, but I just wanted to remind her that I never cheated on any of my girlfriends. I’ve never cheated on her. I know it sounds unrealistic. I’m nowhere near perfect. I think wrong thoughts. I regularly fall short of God’s standard. However, I’m wired to desire to do right. I cringe when someone drives the wrong way down a lane at the grocery store that has an arrow pointing in the opposite direction. It saddens me that simply doing right is not the standard. Better yet, it saddens me that there is no clear definition of what “doing right” even means. I think Christians have a manual called the Bible that lays out what “doing right” means. Although I would be a liar to say that it’s easy to follow, I do believe that doing right is attainable and should be our pursuit. With that thought in mind, allow me to ask a few questions that, if answered soberly, will aid those reading who desire to be people who do right.
Who Are You Doing it For?
The first question to ask yourself is “Who is my motivation for doing right?” If your motivation is not God, you will eventually fall off. You see, even if nobody else would find out, God is still watching me. I desire to please Him with my life. Yes there are things in my life that He is still processing out of me. Those things are between Him and me. I have a long way to go. However, my motivation to do right is nothing but the desire to please Him.
Are You Aware of Your Great Cloud of Witnesses?
I recently heard a pastor talk about the “great cloud of witnesses” mentioned in Hebrews chapter 12. Although I haven’t done a personal extensive study as to who makes up the great cloud of witnesses, my initial thought of the possibility of there being a squad of heavenly cheerleaders rooting for me to run this Christian race well makes me feel as if I have unofficial accountability partners watching me.
Did You Know That Christianity is Counter-Cultural?
“Doing Right” as we interpret that to mean according to the scriptures is the exact opposite of how society says we should live. It is unnatural to love your enemy. It is ludicrous to bless those who curse you. Society says, “Work smarter, not harder.” So, if I can get away with cutting corners and make my job easier, I should do it right? Wrong! Doing right is usually not the easiest option. It will often be the most unpopular option. Yet, even it seems dangerous, it will be the safest option. After all, Provers 2:8 tells us that He guards the paths of the just and protects those who are faithful to Him.
Romel Gibson is a youth and college pastor, mentor, community leader, motivational speaker, musician, and songwriter living in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. He serves as a full- time Campus Life Director with Youth for Christ, one of the largest non-profit youth evangelism ministries in the world. As a songwriter, his most notable works include L. Spenser Smith and Testament (Greater, Surgery), Tonya Baker (Miracles), The Anointed Pace Sisters (Praise and Worship), Myron Butler (Changed), Marvin Sapp (Never), Ruben Studdard (Holding On To You Lord), and Johnny Gill (Black Box).Romel has been married for 11 years to his college best friend Quanedra. Together they have been blessed with three beautiful daughters; Allayna Pilar, Moriah Kelis, and Rylee Addison.