I had a moment the other day. I saw a picture of myself sitting at a piano with my nephew and oldest daughter during the repast of my great-grandfather’s funeral. My nephew and daughter were practically babies. My face was so slim in the picture that I could hardly recognize myself. “I don’t remember ever being that slim” I said to myself. That one thought took me down memory lane and I started to remember high school. I was slim. When I entered college I was slim. Today, I’m fighting a slow battle to lose weight. Lord knows that I don’t want to be a slim as I was in the picture. To me, I looked sick. However, I desire to be more toned than I am right now. For the past two months, I have finally created a routine that allows me to consistently work out. So, I’m working on reaching my weight loss goal. As I looked in the mirror at the gym yesterday, I asked myself the question, “How did I get here?” That question forced me to be real with myself.
In high school, I was in the marching band. Not only were our practices physically challenging, but so were the walks to and from school. I lived close enough to the school to be a walker, but far enough that walking that distance with books on my back was a real workout. This was especially true since we had to climb a hill every day to get home. I spent my free time playing basketball and football with my cousins on the weekends. Exercise was a way of life.
In college, although I was in the marching band there as well, I wasn’t getting as much exercise. Carrying my quads (four drums at once) was a workout, but that’s about it. We never played football and rarely played basketball. I spent many evenings working on music and eating wrong with my friends. I definitely put on the “freshman 15” as it is often called. Now, after 12 years of marriage and 3 children, I’m working to lose 20 lbs. This process has forced me to soberly admit some things. It has also given me hope for a better future. I’d like to share those thoughts with you.
I Didn’t Get Here Overnight!
I have been out of high school for twenty years. Over those twenty years, I have consistently done some things that have caused me to experience slow, but gradual growth in the wrong direction. It was so slow that for a long time, I didn’t really even notice it. Yet, when buying clothes, it was impossible to deny that I couldn’t wear the same size pants that I used to. I’ve eaten wrong. I didn’t have a consistent workout schedule. Consistently not eating right coupled with the consistent lack of exercise will make the wrong kind of weight gain inevitable. Although it feels like it, it didn’t happen overnight.
I Won’t Reach My Goal Overnight!
Just like it was a gradual, but undeniable weight gain journey, it will be a gradual, but undeniable weight loss journey. If it isn’t, that means that I’ve made unhealthy decisions to speed up the process. That’s a recipe for disaster and a guaranteed way to assure that I’ll gain the weight back. This revelation has been a game changer for me. I’ve been consistently working out for two months now. I can’t see any changes, but I know they’re happening.
With Any Goal, Consistency is the Key
On any journey, be it weight loss, debt freedom, or even living out your dream, you are stuck where you stop! The ONLY WAY to get to your destination is to keep going. Now, don’t get me wrong. Taking a small break is healthy. You can have cheat days. On the journey to debt freedom, you can buy yourself something every now and then. However, make sure to get back on the road to doing what you know you need to do to reach your goal. If your cheat meal becomes your regular diet or retail therapy becomes your consistent pattern, you’re headed in the wrong direction. Turn around and make up for the lost miles.
Romel Gibson is a youth and college pastor, mentor, community leader, motivational speaker, musician, and songwriter living in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. He serves as a full- time Campus Life Director with Youth for Christ, one of the largest non-profit youth evangelism ministries in the world. As a songwriter, his most notable works include L. Spenser Smith and Testament (Greater, Surgery), Tonya Baker (Miracles), The Anointed Pace Sisters (Praise and Worship), Myron Butler (Changed), Marvin Sapp (Never), Ruben Studdard (Holding On To You Lord), and Johnny Gill (Black Box).Romel has been married for 12 years to his college best friend Quanedra. Together they have been blessed with three beautiful daughters; Allayna Pilar, Moriah Kelis, and Rylee Addison.