I have always been amazed by the number of people that I know, meet, work with…. that are “People Pleasers.” You know the person that tries to camouflage themselves through chronic niceness, super-holiness, overly-concerned and simply wanting to make everyone happy.
At the end of the day “People Pleasers” spend so much time trying to please others that they begin to loose sight of what is best for themselves. At work: they work longer hours, don’t speak up and put all of their efforts towards harmony, rather than what is right or best. During the upcoming Holiday Season, “People Pleasers” will spend a lot of extra money buying a lot of extra or expensive gifts; when the reality is that the people receiving the gifts could care less. Oh and BTW “It’s the thought that really does count!”
Unfortunately or Fortunately, “I really don’t care what people think.” I am not saying that to be rude, disrespectful, crude, cocky… but I have just been blessed with the spiritual gift of “I really don’t care what people think!” This does not mean that I am not compassionate, loving, caring, considerate, thoughtful, appreciative, don’t like harmony…. as a matter of fact it’s quite the contrary. My discernment and decision making comes from a source, other than peoples’ opinion! I really think that has to be the case for all of us.
The bottom line is that we need to seek to please God and quit worrying about pleasing people. We need to examine our thoughts, feelings, motives and behaviors; as well as placing God’s desires coupled with our personal desires before others’ approval. I am not certain that “People Pleasers” are pleasing God, just people!
Are you, or do you know a “People Pleaser?” What are your thoughts, feelings and perspectives about people pleasing? You can be candid and can say what you mean, because “I really don’t care what people think!” Posted in Love!
Scott Williams is a speaker, strategist, consultant and developer of leaders. He is an avid blogger at BigIsTheNewSmall.com and leverages Social Media to make a Kingdom impact. Scott is passionate about leadership development, organizational growth, and diversity. He is the author of “Church Diversity – Sunday The Most Segregated Day of the Week.” Scott is married, a father of two, and lives in Oklahoma City, OK.