My last Brothaonline.com article was entitled “Relax, It’s Just Sex.” Needless to say that with a title like that, a conversation ensued nearly as soon as the article was posted on social media. I won’t attempt to give an overview of what the article was about. What I will say is that one of my lines suggested that money and sex are the two things that Christians want the most, but talk about the least. During the thought provoking social media conversation, one of the commentators stated that there are a lot of information gaps that are created/left when it comes to money and sex. He went on to say that any time there’s a gap, there’s room for misinformation and lies to be inserted. I told him that I was considering using this thought for my next article. Now, here we are.
Information Gap Task- a technique in language teaching where students are missing information necessary to complete a task or solve a problem, and must communicate with classmates to fill in the gaps.
In its simplest form, an information gap is when there is communication between two or more people, but everyone is not given the same level of information. One example is when a student is given a picture and challenged to describe that picture to another student who has to create a drawing based upon the description. If student #1 does not accurately describe every detail of the picture, student #2 does not have enough information to accurately duplicate the picture. How does this thought process fit with our topic of the week?
If we’d be honest, when it comes to money and sex, many of us did not start out with the right information. Sadly, money management is not offered in most high school curriculum. Because of its ties to religious and moral standards, there is still an ongoing debate as to whether or not sex education should be solely left to the family to provide. Because there is no clear line of demarcation as to whose responsibility it is to disseminate information, the responsibility is often abandoned. In the cases where the responsibility is not abandoned, the information shared is often antiquated and/or inaccurate. Because one generation was not given the proper education, they only have life experience to share with the next generation. Life experience alone is not enough to assure that there are no information gaps. So, let’s look at one aspect of the information gap many Christians have concerning money and sex.
Money and Sex are Evil
In certain sects, it is believed that money is the root of all evil and sex and lust are synonymous. Where’s the information gap. The Bible says that it is the LOVE of money that is the root of all evil. Money in the right hands is a wonderful tool. Money managed properly can position a person to better represent Christ. So, since money is not inherently evil, what does it mean to manage it properly? How does money actually work? How much are we supposed to save? Is it necessary to have investments? What are budgeting essentials? Those who ask these questions are in an information gap.
Sex is a beautiful thing that God created. In the attempt to protect people from abusing it in any form, we often stop at the “wait until marriage” conversation. Where’s the gap? Even if I wait until marriage, what do I do once it’s approved by God? Outside of blatantly sinful desires such as bringing extra people into our marriage bed, what is permissible? Is it wrong to explore my likes and dislikes? What are the potential health dangers of doing certain things? Because there is a gap in information about whether or not money and sex are evil, many of us are living beneath our privileges concerning both.
This time around, I decided to only list one key point. I want to hear your thoughts and key point additions. Let me know what you think.
Romel Gibson is a youth and college pastor, mentor, community leader, motivational speaker, musician, and songwriter living in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. He serves as a full- time Campus Life Director with Youth for Christ, one of the largest non-profit youth evangelism ministries in the world. As a songwriter, his most notable works include L. Spenser Smith and Testament (Greater, Surgery), Tonya Baker (Miracles), The Anointed Pace Sisters (Praise and Worship), Myron Butler (Changed), Marvin Sapp (Never), Ruben Studdard (Holding On To You Lord), and Johnny Gill (Black Box).Romel has been married for 11 years to his college best friend Quanedra. Together they have been blessed with three beautiful daughters; Allayna Pilar, Moriah Kelis, and Rylee Addison.