I am a major NBA fan. I’m particularly a fan of Kobe Bryant. Because of that, you have to know that this year has been bittersweet for me. On one hand, I’m enjoying seeing Kobe go out as a true superstar. On the other hand, it breaks my heart to know that I won’t get to see him play next year. The player who was almost superhuman on the basketball court and by Michael Jordan’s own words, had all of his moves, has proven to actually be human. It’s a reality check for me since I’m a month older than he is. Our generation is “getting on up there” in age. I knew that Kobe would eventually retire and I wanted to go to one of his games before he did so. Early this year, my brothers and I began looking at the Lakers’ schedule to see when and where they would be playing the closest to Alabama. Although they played in Memphis a few times, the New Orleans game was later in the season and would give us more time to prepare. The 8th of April at the Smoothie King Center in New Orleans was our choice.
We went to the game, enjoyed ourselves, took plenty of pictures of Kobe, and went back to our hotel to freshen up before heading back out to explore the city. I had only been to New Orleans one other time and back then, I didn’t go many places. This trip, I wanted to enjoy some of the things the city had to offer. We wanted to eat alligator. The spot we found was on Bourbon St. We didn’t go to Bourbon St. the first time I went to New Orleans so, I didn’t really know what to expect. Let me just say that I thank God that I’m smart enough to not judge an entire city based upon the activities of one popular street. If I judged New Orleans solely on what I felt like while walking Bourbon St., I would never return. Out of the many things that stood out to me (and trust me there were MANY), one store caught my attention as we were crossing over to head away from Bourbon. There was a Hustler Hollywood store that had a sign with the tagline that said, “Relax…It’s Just Sex.” That was a perfect tagline for a store that stood in the midst of a street where everybody seemed to be in agreement. Upon leaving, I decided to look the store up to see exactly what it was. I wasn’t sure if it was a porn store, clothing store, toy store, or all of the above. I found out that it is pretty much all of the above. The tagline is a part of their female clothing line. Although Hustler is not the only entity to use the line, I had not heard it until I read it the other day. The casual tone that is implied has bothered me for days.
Relax- Be at ease
It’s “JUST” Sex- Sex is no big deal.
What they are implying is that the world should just be at ease about sex because sex is not that big of a deal. My take on it may initially surprise you. On one hand, I think the church has done a great disservice to its members by not talking about sex as much as we should. One of the major hindrances to the growth of the Body of Christ is our apprehension with talking/teaching about sex. I once heard someone say that money and sex are the two things that people want the most, but talk about the least. Ignoring them won’t make the desire go away. The Bible speaks of both and I believe that as a whole, we should be teaching about the proper stewardship of both more. Therefore, I’ve decided to highlight a few reasons why I believe that subscribing to the ideology of sex being JUST sex is dangerous.
Sex is God’s Idea
Believe it or not, God is not against sex. After all, He created it. He allowed an entire book to be written in celebration of romantic love (Song of Solomon). God really wants us to have plenty of sex. Since God created it, He gets to set the rules regarding it. He desires us to experience it within the parameters He set up. Since he created it for the confines of holy matrimony, we are to only experience it within marriage. To say sex is just sex implies that marriage is not important and God doesn’t know what He’s doing.
It Perpetuates Dreadful Outcomes
Saying sex is just sex tricks people into believing that it is acceptable for anybody to do it. This train of thought is the reason why the porn industry is so successful. It is a major catalyst of dysfunctional families. It’s the prevailing thought behind teenage pregnancy. It is a producer of countless single parent households. This thought is the instigator behind the spread of STD’s. The more casual sex you have, the more likely you are to experience dreadful outcomes. After all, we can choose our actions, but we can’t choose our consequences.
It is Meant to Destroy the Church
If we diminish the seriousness of sex, we diminish the importance of its original purpose. I personally believe that it was created for recreation within marriage and procreation of mankind. If we diminish its purpose, we destroy marriages and stop Godly families from being established. If we stop Godly families from being established, we halt the church’s succession plan. Satan wants nothing more than for us to believe that sex is JUST sex.
Romel Gibson is a youth and college pastor, mentor, community leader, motivational speaker, musician, and songwriter living in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. He serves as a full- time Campus Life Director with Youth for Christ, one of the largest non-profit youth evangelism ministries in the world. As a songwriter, his most notable works include L. Spenser Smith and Testament (Greater, Surgery), Tonya Baker (Miracles), The Anointed Pace Sisters (Praise and Worship), Myron Butler (Changed), Marvin Sapp (Never), Ruben Studdard (Holding On To You Lord), and Johnny Gill (Black Box).Romel has been married for 11 years to his college best friend Quanedra. Together they have been blessed with three beautiful daughters; Allayna Pilar, Moriah Kelis, and Rylee Addison.