About seven years ago, I was hired to be the drummer for a fairly well-known gospel music conference. While standing at the front desk of the hotel to check in my room for the week, the attendant looked at me and said, “You’re different!” Confused about what she meant, I said, “Pardon me. What did you mean by that?” She said, “I see your snare drum bag on your back. I think it’s safe to say that you’re a musician. That probably means that you’re here for the conference going on across the street right?” I replied, “Yes ma’am, I am. There are musicians from all over the world who are here this week. So, what made you say what you said?” She began to say that I carried myself in a way that made me actually stand out. “I’ve been doing this line of work in this same city for a long time. I’ve met so many celebrities. I’ve worked to host so many events and conferences. We HATE when conferences like these are hosted in our city” she passionately expressed. Since she stirred my curiosity as well as alarmed me concerning a conference that I was attending for the first time, I asked for more. “Why do you hate it so much?” She replied, “This is supposed to be a Christian conference. Yet, we have to have all hands on deck this week. Nobody can take off. Our workers have to work overtime to accommodate cleaning the rooms. We see so many disturbing things. Although this conference is not held in our city every year, when it is here, pornographic movies are ordered in the rooms more than any other time in the year. Now sir, I know you can’t judge a book by its cover. Looks can be deceiving. However, for some reason you just seem different to me.” I thanked her for assuming that I was different and assured her that her assumptions were correct. I even told her that if she was at the front desk when it was time to check out, I wanted her to look at the records in my room. There will not be any ordered movies of any type. Also, I’m faithful to my wife and this week, I’ll be sleeping alone. There will be no need for extra housekeeping service for my room.
Here’s the deal. I’m not saying that I’m perfect. I’m not even trying to make it appear as if I have never fallen victim to sexual sin. What I am saying is that it was heartbreaking that out of every conference that frequents that particular city, they’ve identified the Christian themed ones as the worst ones. By the way, just in case you think she could’ve been an atheist or one who takes pleasure in painting Christianity in a negative light, this woman professed to be a Christian herself and was an active part of an awesome ministry. She was heartbroken by what she was telling me.
According to the covenanteyes.com Pornography Statistics: Annual Report 2015, 51% of pastors say that internet pornography is a possible temptation for them. 64% of Christian men and 15% of Christian women say they watch porn at least once a month. There are so many more disturbing statistics about this subject that I don’t have room or time to address. Just know that it is a rapidly growing industry with over 2 billion internet searches since the start of 2015 alone. What makes it so addictive?
There are several neurotransmitters and hormones involved in the addiction. Once again, I don’t have time to dive into all of it in detail. In brevity, I’ll say that they create neural paths that are widened every time a person views pornography. The way the hormones and neurotransmitters all work together, they create a feeling that the body longs to regularly experience. Not only does the body want the feeling, but it wants to consistently connect to the source that caused the feeling. It is similar to drug addiction. People will search over and over again trying to get the high they felt the first time.
In true amateur fashion, I’ve touched on the science. However, as Christians, we must be more acquainted with the truth that its root cause is lust and lust is SIN! Sadly, with regards to what many believe to be sexual sin, we regularly hear messages on abstaining from fornication and adultery. We hardly ever hear about abstaining from pornography in extensive discussion. It is a sin that can be hidden for a long time because it oftentimes happens alone and in secrecy. Because of this fact, many believe it only affects themselves which makes it not a big deal. Lastly, with porn, one can experience the climax without the covenant. By God’s design, sex is to be beautifully experienced via the covenant of marriage. The physical pleasure that sex provides was intended to be a privilege only experienced after two have come into God-ordained covenant. It is not the total purpose for sex, but it is a privilege. Pornography gives you the ability to bypass the covenant, but experience the climax “alone.” That’s like rejecting God but requesting the goods of God. It is offensive to Him. Anything that offends Him should offend those who claim to belong to Him.
Romel Gibson is a youth and college pastor, mentor, community leader, motivational speaker, musician, and songwriter living in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. He serves as a full- time Campus Life Director with Youth for Christ, one of the largest non-profit youth evangelism ministries in the world. As a songwriter, his most notable works include L. Spenser Smith and Testament (Greater, Surgery), Tonya Baker (Miracles), The Anointed Pace Sisters (Praise and Worship), Myron Butler (Changed), Marvin Sapp (Never), Ruben Studdard (Holding On To You Lord), and Johnny Gill (Black Box).Romel has been married for 12 years to his college best friend Quanedra. Together they have been blessed with three beautiful daughters; Allayna Pilar, Moriah Kelis, and Rylee Addison.