That is the Question…
You know, every year around this time, a new year just seems to pop up out of nowhere. The nerve of that darn January, coming around, every… January! And, every year around this time, the natural tendency is for people to reflect on what happened in the past year and give thought to what they hope to do in the coming year. Which is now, that pesky “new year” that I was talking about a sentence or two ago.
I did a survey on my Facebook page, asking people if they did New Year’s resolutions or not. I got a variety of answers from folks. Some gleefully typed, “Yes, I do them every year.” Others complained, “Why? They don’t work.” Or, I got more altruistic statements like, “I don’t have to wait for the new year to try and better myself.”
Here’s some trivia for you, according to Wikipedia (I know, I know) the first New Year’s Resolutions were made some 4,000 years ago by the Babylonians. They (the Babs) made promises to “their gods” at the beginning of each and every year. They would say that they would return things they had borrowed and promised to pay debts that they owed (maybe that’s where the I.O.U. came from, too J ) Apparently, the “god” these promises were made to was named, Janus. If you didn’t already make the connection, “January” is named after Janus. And, January is the first month of the year. Yeah, we all learned something today. 😉
PS: With all of those I.O.U.s floating around, Janus was probably broke!
I am of the mindset that, everyone should take periodic inventory of where they are in their life, decide if they are happy with where they are, work on things that they want to improve and “resolve” to better those chosen areas. They should be “resolute” in those choices (see what I did there?). And, the New Year is always a great time to reflect.
Nielsen does a poll of the top New Year’s resolutions and they haven’t changed much over the years.
Here are the top 6.
1. Stay fit and healthy
2. Lose weight
3. Enjoy life
4. Spend less and save
5. Spend more time with family and friends
6. Get organized
Do you see your yearly resolutions in this list?
Now, be honest, have you ever made resolutions and by the time you’re done reading this article you’ve broken the resolution? Why is that, really? I’ve
researched why people break their resolutions so quickly. There are several reasons that I found. But, I’m going to give you my nickel’s worth on the subject, if you don’t mind. In my own words and thoughts…your resolution is REALLY only a wish and you have no PLAN!
Many people get mad, I mean downright angry about that, blame the failure of the resolution, on the “tradition of resolution setting.” They disavow all future resolution activity and curse it’s very essence. “To the pits of hell with you, a foul beast that is, the resolution!” – Too dramatic?
I’ve got news for you, it’s not the resolution’s fault! The only way you will ever have success at resolutions, or anything else for that matter is to COMMIT to it. You have to want to see that resolution through as badly as you want to breathe. You have to have strong reasons for wanting to see that resolution through so when it gets hard, you can review the reasons that you set the resolution in the first place. And, stay committed.
Let’s take the second resolution on the above list, “lose weight.” The average person really wants to lose weight. They’ve seen the pounds pack on over the years and “this is the year” they make a change. They give it the old college try for about…3 days, lol. Then, hunger pains, cravings, friends, kids, spouses, etc start in with all of your old temptations and favorite foods. You think, “well, a little bit won’t hurt, right?”
Then, a little bit turns into a lotta butt! You get frustrated and, you settle. You post memes about being happy about the person you are and, “God made me this way,” and, “Real women have curves,” and…you name it. You look for ways to justify in your mind, that you made the right decision by giving up. This is the pressure cooker of life, too.
Once and for all times, you have to put your foot down and stop with the excuses and, like Tony Robbins likes to say, turn your “should” into “musts.” That’s the only way to approach resolutions. Heck, that’s the only way to approach, life. Be resolute about that.
Larry Tank Jones is an actor, producer, philanthropist, and motivational speaker that loves to push himself and others to be the best they can be.
He has acted in dozens of movies, the most notable being “Three Kings,” and has appeared in several television shows, including NCIS, CSI: Miami, Breaking Bad and more. He has a leading role in the historical film, Union Bound, which is set to be released in April.
Tank Jones is also a producer, he is currently producing the series Fire and Ice, and is the co-producer of the very successful Latin Comedy Jam comedy tour.
In addition to his film career, Tank is a motivational speaker who has traveled the country speaking on behalf of his nonprofit organization, Choices Empowerment. Choices Empowerment was founded in 2003 to promote diversity and to help encourage elementary, middle and high school students to have a positive outlook toward themselves and their goals.