Are you finding it difficult to trust others? Does it feel impossible to move on? In this book, the author, Sedrik Newbern, shares personal stories and provide tips to help you unpack the baggage people have a tendency take from relationship to relationship, so you can let go and move on.
Focus on what’s ahead
Imagine yourself behind the wheel of your car. Instead of looking through the windshield, you focus on the rearview mirror as you drive most of the way. People, not just car safety experts, would say this is not a very safe or effective way to operate a vehicle. Aside from the obvious danger, this presents the driver and other passengers on the road, focusing on the rearview mirror will cause you to run up on obstacles, miss your next turn and ultimately get delayed by roadblocks you meet on your journey.
If this is true behind the wheel, then why do so many of us go through life focused on the rearview mirrors of our lives? Instead of looking out on the horizon and dreaming of what’s next, we keep looking back at our past. We miss opportunities to avoid obstacles and challenges because we are blinded by what happened to us. The rearview mirror of our lives should only be used to remind us of how far we have come and to make sure that we have moved beyond the things we have left behind.
There’s a reason the rearview mirror is only a fraction of the windshield size. You should live your life in the same proportion. You can’t spend 90% of your time looking out of your rearview mirror. The life ahead of you is much bigger than your past, but you have to first focus on what’s ahead.
Sedrik is an author and John Maxwell Certified Coach, Trainer and Speaker. A recognized leader in career and relationship coaching, Sedrik has developed and conducted hundreds of workshops and motivational keynotes on relationships, healing, and restoration.
His keynote presentations, workshops, and consultations are interactive, thought provoking and life changing. He uses real life examples and hands-on activities sprinkled with a bit of humor in his seminars and keynotes to engage participants. This ensures they leave with applicable ideas and action plans that are memorable and easy to implement.
A native of Nashville, TN, Sedrik holds a BS in Marketing from Western Kentucky University and an MBA with a concentration in Economics from Tennessee State University. He is the President and founder of Newbern Consulting Group, LLC as well as President of Phoenix Insurance & Financial Services, Inc. an Allstate Insurance agency in downtown Libertyville, IL. Sedrik’s success as an entrepreneur, he attributes to the support and motivation he receives from his wife Denise and their son Matthew.