“What a powerful book. Anyone who has friends, co-workers, family members would do well to have a copy of this book at the ready… just in case.”–The Charlotte Observer
“Most wonderfully, Lerner tackles absent apologies that hurt and demoralize. She considers forgiving vs. letting go and shows readers how to have one without the other…Highly recommended for mental health professionals and anyone struggling to offer an apology, hoping for one, or wishing to move on – with or without forgiving.”–Library Journal
“Soulful, compassionate, and oh so right.”
This is a book that we all need to have as a resource. Dr. Harriet Lerner has done us a great service. – Cyrus Webb
I read A LOT of books, but the books that stick with me the most are those that are able to challenge us and allow us to see ourselves and others differently. WHY WON’T YOU APOLOGIZE? by Dr. Harriet Lerner does that and so much more.
I love the fact that she is able to take the subject of apologies and remind us that as human beings we are going to make mistakes and we are going to feel wronged. What matters is how we handle that moment when it comes. Using herself and the example of others to show us how to react and how best NOT to react, we are able to get a better grasp on the importance of addressing the issue and not the person. The book also takes it a step further and allows us to see that sometimes the best thing to do is to be honest about not being able to accept an apology because of where it might be coming from. That again is something that we have to evaluate ourselves and make sure that we are actually sorry for what we did or just at the way it was perceived and how others took it.
No matter who you are, where you live or your relationship status we are all bound to be offended or to offend someone. Dr. Lerner shows us though how we don’t have to allow that offense to stop us and destroy something that may be able to survive if handled honestly and opening.
Cyrus Webb (aka C. A. Webb) has been active in the arts since 1999, hosting art shows and poetry readings around the United States while also building the Conversations brand. Today Conversations includes a daily radio show, magazine and nationally-recognized book club.
Outside of the work Webb does for himself he is also a celebrated publicist for authors, entertainers and businesses who entrust him with the task of getting their message and product noticed.
For over a decade Cyrus Webb has given the world the conversations with the artists, authors and entertainment industry professions that the world can’t get enough of. Cyrus introduces his listeners to movers and shakers around the world who are living their dreams, overcoming challenges and showing others what is possible for them as well.